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Having the First Conversation: Setting Team Standards

The first conversation sets the tone for everything that follows. As a coach or leader, your words carry weight. This guide walks you through opening a conversation about team standards, respect, and accountability — without lecturing.

Steps

  1. Open with your team's values: 'What do we stand for?'
  2. Ask players what disrespect looks like to them.
  3. State your expectation clearly: 'On this team, we respect everyone. That is non-negotiable.'
  4. Connect it to performance: 'Teams that respect each other win together.'
  5. Set the consequence: what happens when someone crosses the line.
  6. End with a team commitment: ask each player to nod or agree.

Resources

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